|Time With Tamika|
Relationships & Life
Listen here, there is a serious epidemic of misunderstandings, miscommunications, lies, facades, and confusion. See what humans are accustomed to is protecting. Protecting themselves from pain, and only searching for pleasure, love, and approval, and most times it is all from the wrong people or things. Obviously things cannot provide what it is the human spirit desperately needs and survives with, but the confusion and misunderstandings stem from an everlasting attempt to gather "things" that momentarily fulfill the sensation of satisfaction. Then what? Unhappiness occurs. A feeling of being unsettled, lost, or an incredible amount of questions arise out of wonder. Wondering what is in store? What should I do? Where should I be? And with whom? Confusion is nothing more than an emotion caused by not wanting to make a decision, although, you truly do know the right answer. Confusion plies its hands into lives when your question has been answered, but it calls for a change, and you resist. Change is not an easy task, it is a transition to be better, and do better.
The lying to oneself about your own heart, and feelings is such a discouragement to yourself. Never sitting and being with yourself is killing oneself slowly, and literally causes such a disconnection to what matters. If I had a penny for every time someone called someone a friend that seriously did not even come close to the definition of a friend, or when someone says I love you when they really do not mean it. Forget pennies, how about a grain of dirt for every time I notice people being concerned with something that does not matter at all to the essence of who they are. Whether it be buying a new car, focusing on the appearance of another, speaking about their homes, and items that they have obtained over the years because of the financial status they obtained, I could literally make my own piece of land and use the pennies to pay for a new home. The point is, none of it is essential to your well being. Blessings they are, but treat them as such. My grandmother always tells me, it is hard for a rich man to go to heaven, not impossible, but hard. When you are rich you focus on the surface. The depths of anything is what matters; what cannot be seen, but felt. Being on both sides of the spectrum of life and understanding has helped me to understand the aspect of living humbly.
My greatest wish is for everyone to be honest with themselves about everything. How many real friends do you have? The others that are not, why are they in your life? What matters to you? What makes you truly happy, and are you happy now? Like for real?? If you were stuck on this planet and could only choose three people to be with, who would they be? And would those three people choose you as well? Just a thought, and when it is all said and done, misunderstandings, miscommunication, lies, facades, and confusion are present because the light of truth is not being released in its entirety. What a thought??!!
I figured I better share while I am in the mood to, this type of mood does not happen very often. I created a video awhile back to have a visual representation of what The Oprah Winfrey Show has meant to me. It is more than most could understand, but it is the truth. In the meantime....watch the video to get a greater understanding and please let me know what you think,
I received some unfair information today. It really gave me a small emotional breakdown. How many times have you heard the saying, "Bad things happen to good people?" I'm not going to say I didn't deserve having this happen to me, because the truth is most people do not deserve the things that are happening to their lives. What I will say, I am choosing to deal with the experience from a different standpoint. I am in a place to fight for not just myself, but for others. Sometimes things happen for reasons beyond you. It may not make sense to you at the moment, but once you fight through the tears and get it, your perception may shift. This is an opportunity to use my voice, and to fight for the rights of those that are not granted the rights that everyone else should get. Nothing is really meant to be unfair. What I know within my heart is...things will continue to be unfair until we stand up and say, and do something about it. Always in the way your best skills will be utilized.
The other day I had a moment. I was a bit baffled and frustrated by how people act like things are great. I listen to people. Most times people either say who they really are directly to you. I remember talking to a guy, I mentioned to him that he was such a nice guy, he then told me he was not very nice. He was right. I was wrong. I saw a post on Facebook from someone speaking about their significant other. They posted a comment about how great they were. Really?? I've always believed, if things are that great, there is no need to post, flaunt, or expose that. Just simply be happy. That whole saying about sharing your happiness is a hoax. People are more likely to share themselves FAKING like they are happy. For some strange reason, human nature coaches us to act like everything is ok when clearly everything is not. When people are making bad choices, and they literally know within themselves their entire lives will suffer from it, the sad part is, they will steadily act like everything is grand. Things are not what they seem. Look at some celebrities, listen to their words, pay attention to their expressions. Society places these people on a pedestal thinking they have better lives than us "regular" people. The fact is, most of them are struggling just like the rest of us. Money, and fame does NOT make you happy. We all know that, but so many still chase it. Again, things are not what they seem. SOOOOO what is real?? Do you really think those that flaunt their marriage, relationships, and friendships, are having a blast? Probably not! Just remember, whenever someone is telling you something, nine times out of ten....the statements being made.....are not what they seem.
Author: Tamika Carlton
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