|Time With Tamika|
Relationships & Life
Death. What a word? It has such a negative connotation. People, animals, and plants die, really all living things have an end date. Why does that frighten us so much?? It is always the fear of the unknown that inhibits us from being and playing the game of life appropriately. I've had to experience the death of a loved one more often than I would like to. When my father died, something struck me after I cried endless hours alone in the darkness. I asked why, so many times I cannot even think of a an actual number. I was so sad inside. The sadness carried such a void, a real feeling of forget it all! Forget this life! Forget this world! Somehow with the grace of God, and with the spurts of energy I was given to wipe my tears and hide my sadness I kept going; I lived. The struggle of acceptance was a daily happening. Every moment, I just wanted it all to end. I wanted things to be different, but again, somehow I pushed forth. I cried, I yelled, I sat, I walked, I talked, I hid, I left myself, in order to cope. The truth is I did not begin to cope until I truly thought of what had happened. My dad was no longer here. All the dreams, and visions I had of him being in my life in the future were no more. So definite. So painful. I felt a spark, and suddenly I began to understand his soul, the light of his energy could guide me, and it has. When I need strength he is there. Such a blessing. I miss him like no other. He is and was my daddy, no matter what. He contributed to me being the person I am today. The love we share is gracious, pure, and unconditional. I love you Dad! Every moment I live, I grasp the fact that your soul has opened doors for me and thrust me into the realization that pain is all the same. That peering into the eyes of another is not only having the ability to see another, but you are seeing yourself. Your death taught me to feel, and to be the best that I can be. I love YOU!!!! I miss you!!!
It is super easy to be selfish, to take on what you want rather than the needs of others. It is easy to follow, and not create your own path. It is super easy to be someone else, and not be yourself. Taking the easy way naturally takes less energy, that is why the unique ones are less common. The urgency of being extraordinary has never been needed as much as it is now. The followers will easily be separated from the leaders, and the leaders are the ones to watch, right??? To be kind is more of a task because you must go out of your way to be accommodating. The funny thing about kindness is how it has the immediate capability to ignite a different happy emotion within the soul of yourself and others. Karmic behaviors are desperately needed. In a time when everyone is rushing to do what society deems important and appropriate, there is a need to step back, take a moment and sense the needs and wants for someone else. If you can be brave enough, and considerate enough to show how much you care for another, the world becomes a better place. For those that know me, I love hard. I am here to protect, love, and change. That is my mission, and my daily actions will showcase this. In stating that, I encourage you all to do the same. Remember someone else, and go out of your way to make it known to them that they are important to your life, and the world. The feeling of love....is great...
The ones I love, know it, without a doubt. My hope for them is to know I am here for them no matter what, and ultimately my wish is for them to embrace, then spread that same love.
I figured I better share while I am in the mood to, this type of mood does not happen very often. I created a video awhile back to have a visual representation of what The Oprah Winfrey Show has meant to me. It is more than most could understand, but it is the truth. In the meantime....watch the video to get a greater understanding and please let me know what you think,
Lessons are taught to us in a myriad of ways dependent upon on our learning levels. The universe will create lessons specifically for us in a way that should be effective to what could be called your own personal "learning curve." I say everyone has to learn somehow...even if it is the hard way. Most of us know for sure the difference between "right" and "wrong." Whether we choose to ignore what those words mean is really our choice that can help us or not. I feel like I am in situations to help people gather lessons...not always the most enjoyable place to be, but being used as a vessel or catalyst for others is an ok job. It can stressful, time consuming, and can be hurtful to you. Know that we each are a vessel for someone else's teaching. We may be in the midst of it, and we may get hurt in the process of the teaching, but knowing how to handle the hurt as you are going through it is a tactic you will have to re-learn every single time you are going through it. Remember to stay positive and sometimes you have to take yourself out of the equation, sometimes MOST TIMES it is not about you, it is about someone them, the other person. You will get through it, and they will get it, at some point soon so bear with it, and stay smiling through it all. Smiles change everything.
Try it...smile RIGHT now! It's not so bad after all.
Author: Tamika Carlton
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