|Time With Tamika|
Relationships & Life
The days go by so fast. Whenever I think about writing an additional blog post, something always seems to come up or I'm not near a computer. I hate to miss out on expressing and sharing valuable thoughts and ideas. First off, I would like to mention Inception with Leonardo DiCaprio. It was by far one of the best, most fascinating and thought provoking films I have ever seen. Very much worth your time and money, it is a movie you have to go into with an open mind and some concentration. I'm excited to see it again just so I can gain even more of the plot.
On another note, I have steadily been on a mission to find happiness and be happy in the moment. I know the only way we all can be happy is if we remember the greatest we have ever felt, and recall what you were doing when you felt it. Every moment is a chance for new opportunites, more love and a different perception. Please be open to whatever may be and become one with what is...
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day, she told me she does not believe in love anymore. After being hurt excruciatingly bad more than once by her boyfriends, she confirmed she is now doubting love. After our conversation I thought about what she said for awhile. I mean really, how is a woman or anyone else for that matter supposed to continue to believe in a committed and honest relationship when there are so many men that tend to not take their vows or dedicated partnerships seriously? When you finally, after being hurt once, twice, or three times open your locked heart only for it to be slaughtered once again, how does one still believe in love?? I've been hurt as well and now recognize we go through relationships to grow and learn. It may be to learn what we don't want or it may be so you can get the "not to do" list in love. I listen to others tell their stories and feel such empathy. It's not always fair in love and war...yeah whatever. Lets be real life isn't fair, and feeling heartbreak at some point in any relationship is quite inevitable. The question is how do we deal? How do you trust in such a powerful energy source? I don't believe in rocket science answers, I think the best thing to do is.....drumroll please....JUST DO IT! I'm not promoting Nike, I'm promoting risk taking. Sure you can take it slow, but know in order to find real love, you have to somehow find it in the depths of yourself, and know that it is attainable. Not easy, but attainable. Struggle with great purpose and the pure intention of care in love is ok. It is what makes love worth living for. To have a bond with another so deep it can never be broken, to love unconditionally through good and bad is what we all need. To be loved and accepted no matter what is what strengthens our character. So take the plunge! I believe in love...I also know its worth fighting for.
It has always been tough for me to display my real emotions on my face. I'm not one whom wears their heart on their sleeve. I consider myself to be a strong woman with sensitivities not many will ever be allowed to see. I show a happy face at all times and find it easier to do so. Who wants to know when you are sad or down? I would rather not depress anyone else or bother them with what is going on with me. Sure there are those I can confide in, but even then I limit my emotions at times. I don't like it for people to see me at a low point which never last for too long. I am capable of expressing then going on with my life. Independent at heart I often choose introspection as a resolving method. Most times I feel so misunderstood after telling someone my feelings so I would rather just hold them in.. I am fortunate enough to have a couple friends/family that "get me" to a certain point. I know like so many others how much you hesitate before you release to anyone, but in order to achieve the connections we so adamantly desire we have to be willing to expose our hidden selves. Doing so opens your soul to the greatness in store for you. It gives others a relatable factor, and it flourishes any real relationship. I'm taking steps to feel free enough to let go of so much that has been creating a great big ball of frustrating energy within me. I'm trusting in the unknown and the possibilities that even though I may get hurt, I will still go on.
There has been so much on my mind lately. Daily, I'm attempting to achieve more. This past weekend I was in Atlanta to visit one of my favorite aunts in the hospital. Seeing her through what many would consider a tough time and witnessing her spiritual strength and appreciation of life itself I was able to see the world in a different way. You know sometimes we forget. We get so caught up with our daily tasks, we forget to live the way WE want to. I was so thankful to have the opportunity to see her face and hear her voice. I really pray we all stray away from taking life and those we love for granted. Whenever I hug a family member or just look at them, as corny as it may sound, I am so in tuned with what I am doing that hours or even days later I can still feel their embrace or I can hear their voice in my head. I remember before my father died he hugged me and his cheek touched mine, to this day if I concentrate and truly recall that memory I can feel the warmth of his cheek against mine. Memories are amazing. I am requesting that you slow down with others and take the time to create new memories.
Author: Tamika Carlton
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